Don't change your routine
Ok...So I get a lot of clients who are very smart when it comes to keeping this hobby or other activity they participate in very hush hush. They have cover stories, they clear there internet browsers and history, they use separate phones and emails etc.
But I still have a few clients who have a really hard time with keeping this activity in their life a secret (if that's what they are trying to do). So here is a couple helpful hints on what you SHOULD be doing at the minimum to hide this from the other person in your life or anyone else.
IF PATTERNS CHANGE, SOMETHING IS UP! I can't stress this enough. I always say if I start to see a shift in the normal patterns like you coming home 2 hours late from work or you start keeping your phone with you everywhere you go and not letting it out of your sight or you start putting passwords on everything, then I know something is up and I will start digging. So try and keep your patterns the same. We don't miss a thing. If you never put passwords on your phone before, don't start now. You will have to use another device or get another phone that you hide because we will try to get into that phone any chance we can. An it all tumbles from there. We are crazy.
CLEAR YOUR HISTORY: Clear your history every time you get off the computer. We are sneaky and we always know when something is up. If we can get to that computer to look at what you're looking at, we will. Better yet, use a different computer all together that she doesn’t know about. Don't be sneaking off either in the middle of the night to look. You may think we are asleep but we are not.
Have GREAT cover stories: When it comes to appointments, you need to have GREAT cover stories. Believable ones and ones that we can verify if we want too. So if you tell them you were at the gym for two hours, you better have your bag with you when you get home and look like you were sweating or showered. However you normally look when you come home from the gym. So if you never shower after you work out, don't shower at our place. We catch on to the tiniest details. After the appt, go run around a lake quick, go home and then shower after you see the wifey. DON'T CHANGE YOUR PATTERNS!!
GET A SECOND PHONE LINE OR NEW PHONE: Either have a hobby phone she has no clue about that you leave at the office or get a google voice number installed on your current phone. A google voice number is a completely free number that you can make calls with and text with and it doesn’t show up on your bill that she may see. Its easy to get and to do. Or get another phone that is cheap that you can toss at anytime, but don't get caught with it.
YOU CAN GIVE HER YOUR PHONE TO LOOK AT: There is no need to lock up your phone especially if you never did before. And if you do lock it up and she starts getting suspicious, there is so many programs out there to help you cover all the stuff you do on your phone for both android and Iphone. There is a password lock program I use that locks up your apps when you want or when you are not using your phone. Let's say your wife is getting suspious of you and wants to see your phone? So hand her the phone and give her the password. Once in she will start looking at phone log and messages. Well, if you have a password lock on your apps, she presses the app she wants to dig through and a message pops up : "Unfortunately, Contacts has stopped working." And then there is an "OK" button for her to press and it takes her back to the main screen. Now she will hand the phone to you and say your phone isn't working. You then act all confused and say oh I must need to restart the phone. So you walk away, start another conversation and deviate from the situation hoping she gets involved in something else. This works for awhile. Then you will have to look at other apps that will hide messages and call logs which they do have. You just have to go into the app store and search for "hide messages" or "Hide apps" and a bunch of free apps to download will come up. Be smart. Be as smart as us.
Women are smart. A lot smarter than you think. And we know when something is up. The biggest key to not getting caught is to think like us. What would you be thinking if you were in their shoes looking at you. How would you make it look better and believable to us? The other key is DO NOT CHANGE YOUR PATTERNS!!! That is the key to the whole game!