The Female Orgasm
There Is No Such Thing A G Spot
It's been thes The G-Spot Holy Grail for years, but the G-Spot has been emphatically disproved. Many hours may have been dedicated to finding this little patch of heaven, but the truth is it doesn’t exist. The effect attributed to the G-Spot is in fact a mixture of the clitoris, the vagina and the uterus. Researchers from the Italian Centre of Sexology and the University of Florence found that it's practically impossible for a woman to achieve orgasm through penetrative sex alone and the majority of women worldwide do not have orgasms during penetrative sex because, indeed, the G-Spot is a myth.
But There Is A C-Spot
That's right, folks, it's the C-Spot – or clitoris – that's actually responsible for the female orgasm. Seventy percent of women require direct clitoral stimulation to these 8,000 nerve endings to achieve orgasm. In a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine study researcher Dr. Susan Oakley, an OBGYN at Good Samaritan Hospital in Cincinnati, Ohio, said, "There's no G spot. There's a C spot — the clitoris."
Her Ability To Orgasm Depends On The Size & Location Of The Clitoris
It gets more complicated, though. The approximately 20% of women who CAN, in fact, orgasm from penetration (high five if that's your girlfriend) likely either have a larger clitoris than most women or their clitoris is closer to the vagina opening. In a US study published earlier this year through the The National Center for Biotechnology Information researchers found that in some women, the clitoris is smaller, and located farther from the vagina, which is what leads some women to be able to orgasm easier than others.
It's Going To Take A While
Most women require at least 20 minutes of sexual activity – foreplay – to climax, according to Brown University research. But once women are warmed up, they can reach orgasm in a little less than four minutes on average. What's the difference between foreplay and being warmed up? Well let's just say, unless you want to be down south for 20 minutes, use your hands or get comfortable making out for a while first...
70% Of Women Fake It
Seven out of ten women or almost 70% (and nearly a third of men, by the way) have faked an orgasm, according to a study by the University of Kansas. Heartwarming as it is, both sexes gave the same reasons for faking it – to avoid upsetting the person with whom they are having sex. Which is actually a nice gesture, if you think about it. Less uplifting commonly cited reasons were that they were bored after an orgasm seemed unlikely and basically gave up. Regardless, it's probably about them not you, which is strangely reassuring.
Lesbian Women Orgasm More
A 2014 study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that lesbian women orgasm about 75% of the time during sex with a consistent partner. Notice how high that is? The researchers concluded that homosexual women are more comfortable – and clearly familiar – with their bodies (and thus their partners').
10% Of Women Squirt
To most people, encountering a woman who can ejaculate is more the stuff of myth and legend than reality. But it may be easier to find than you thought. One in 10 women "ejaculate fluid from the urethra at orgasm" according to Brown University research. Of course, this may not mean full-on water fountain style activity; we're assuming, like most things in life, ejaculation exists on a spectrum. We'll leave it to you to find out, though these tips to make her ejaculate should help you out.
Orgasms Relieve Pain
A woman’s pain threshold increases — by up to 107% — during orgasm according to WIRED's scientific analysis of the female orgasm. This is due to endorphins, oxytocin and prolactin being released. Good news for those looking to get a little Fifty Shades of Inspiration in the bedroom
Your PE Won't Affect Her Orgasm
That's right. Breathe a deep sigh of relief. A little premature ejaculation won't hurt anyone. The reason it's an issue at all for most women is not that it cuts intercourse short, but rather that, to quote the title of the study, "women [are] repeatedly short-changed when men come too early". Women interviewed reported that men were generally more focused on delaying their own ejaculation than on the sexual needs of the woman. So whenever you come, get back to pleasing her with other appendages.
The Clitoris And Penis Are Made From The Same Stuff
No matter their final appearance, sex organs develop from the same embryonic cells, and they're similarly connected to the nervous system. In fact, the outer part of the clit is analogous to the head of a penis (imagine that: you're basically touching a penis). Just as a penis gets hard and erect due to a surge of blood during arousal, so does the clitoris. After orgasm, that hardness goes away, and the clit returns to its normal state.
The Clitoris Is Twice As Sensitive As The Penis
Although sometimes it does seem like men have got ALL the luck by having a penis – as opposed to that finicky, hard-to-find, clitoris – the penis actually has only around half as many nerves as the clit. When it comes to sensitivity, women are the real winners, with roughly 8,000 nerve fibres in that tiny ball of joy.
The Female Orgasm Gets Better With Age
While the clit size may not matter for ego purposes as penis size does, as we learned earlier on in this piece the smaller the clit, the more difficult it is for women to achieve orgasm. However, even those with a small clitoris can have hope for the future (HOORAH), because unlike the penis, the clit grows with age. At 32, a woman's clitoris is four times the size it was when she reached puberty; after menopause, it's seven times the size was when a woman was born. Who says growing up's not fun?!