Does Size Matter?
When it comes to sexual insecurity, women haven’t cornered the market. For all the reassurances from urologists, sex therapists and former girlfriends that it’s not the size of the boat but how they captain it that matters, guys still wonder: Does size matter? More important: Do I measure up? Yes, size matters. But not the way men might think it does. most popular model measures six inches long and 1-1/4 inches around, though women have sought longer and fatter.
The cultural perception is that bigger is going to feel better, but that’s not always the case. Too big and you’re going to need a lot of lube, there’s going to be a lot more friction and it might chafe, “Even your orgasmic contractions may be less powerful.” Logically, the same holds true for penises of the non-silicone variety. It doesn’t matter how many Long Dong Silvers show up in porn flicks. Many women may initially enjoy the sight of a big guy, but their next reaction is often Ouch! That poor girl!
If it’s too big, it can be overwhelming and painful. You have to really be ready to deal with something that large. And here’s something else guys don’t take into account when wishing for more inches: A woman may be reluctant to vault that big pole again. You can be sore the next day and not so eager to have intercourse. There were definitely times I said, ‘Don’t poke me with that thing.’” A girlfriend confessed she was so saddle-sore after a romp with a bigger-than-usual guy that the next day she made an emergency appointment with her gynecologist. And although they dated for three months, she refused to get back on that bronco again. He wanted to, but she diverted him with oral sex or made excuses to avoid having sex with him. Anecdotes aside, accommodating an extra-large penis can result in vaginal injury. Extra-long members can bump against a woman’s cervix during intercourse, causing discomfort or pain. With larger girth, tearing could occur and cause bleeding. Making sex pleasurable with a well-hung honey comes down to three things: lubricant, patience and position experimentation. So Is Smaller Better? Although too big can certainly be a big problem, nobody wants a pinkie-sized fellow either.
I dated a guy with an outsized sense of himself. He stretched the truth about what he did, where he lived, what he owned. In short, he was a showboat. When I finally got into bed with him, I understood what he was compensating for. I never realized that they came in petite! I slept with him again just to get another look at it. I got a similar surprise one night when I was out with a guy that I had a huge crush on one summer. He was big and burly and when we kissed, he literally swept me off my feet. After too many drinks, we ended up back at his place. But lo and behold, where I expected a giant redwood was... a sapling. Passion carried the moment, but I learned a valuable lesson about drawing any conclusions based on a man’s hands, feet or stature. But it’s unfair to claim that a “good fit” is up to the man. Have a couple of children the old-fashioned way, and you may not be as tight down there as you once were. That can make a slender penis feel too small. Fortunately, toys can help. Rings and penis pumps can (temporarily) add girth for guys with more modest holdings. Women can do their part by using Kegel exercises to tighten the vaginal walls, leading to a snugger fit.
That gives you more control over your vaginal muscles so that during intercourse, you’re contracting more and harder, so that feels good for both of you. Also, before writing a guy off for not measuring up, consider his ability to compensate for his shortcomings. Can he please you in other ways? Being attentive to your needs is the most important quality in a good lover, regardless of his penis size. When it comes down to it, it’s not about actual inches, how big he is or how tight you are, but what you both do with the equipment you’ve got and how it all feels when you’re together.